Posts Tagged ‘femininity’

FOR EVERY GIRL WHO IS TIRED OF ACTING WEAK WHEN SHE IS STRONG, THERE IS A BOY TIRED OF APPEARING STRONG WHEN HE FEELS VULNERABLE.

FOR EVERY BOY WHO IS BURDENED WITH THE CONSTANT EXPECTATION OF KNOWING EVERYTHING, THERE IS A GIRL TIRED OF PEOPLE NOT TRUSTING HER INTELLIGENCE.

FOR EVERY GIRL WHO IS TIRED OF BEING CALLED OVER-SENSITIVE, THERE IS A BOY WHO FEARS TO BE GENTLE, TO WEEP.

FOR EVERY WOMAN WHO IS TIRED OF BEING A SEX OBJECT, THERE IS A MAN WHO MUST WORRY ABOUT HIS POTENCY.

FOR EVERY WOMAN WHO FEELS “TIED DOWN” BY HER CHILDREN, THERE IS A MAN WHO IS DENIED THE FULL PLEASURES OF SHARED PARENTHOOD.

FOR EVERY WOMAN WHO IS DENIED MEANINGFUL EMPLOYMENT OR EQUAL PAY, THERE IS A MAN WHO MUST BEAR FULL FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANOTHER HUMAN BEING.

FOR EVERY BOY FOR WHOM COMPETITION IS THE ONLY WAY TO PROVE HIS MASCULINITY, THERE IS A GIRL WHO IS CALLED UNFEMININE WHEN SHE COMPETES.

FOR EVERY WOMAN WHO WAS NOT TAUGHT THE INTRICACIES OF AN AUTOMOBILE, THERE IS A MAN WHO WAS NOT TAUGHT THE SATISFACTIONS OF COOKING.

FOR EVERY GIRL WHO THROWS OUT HER E-Z-BAKE OVEN, THERE IS A BOY WHO WISHES TO FIND ONE.

FOR EVERY BOY WHO IS STRUGGLING NOT TO LET ADVERTISING DICTATE HIS DESIRES, THERE IS A GIRL FACING THE AD INDUSTRY’S ATTACK ON HER SELF-ESTEEM.

FOR EVERY GIRL WHO TAKES A STEP TOWARD HER LIBERATION, THERE IS A BOY WHO FINDS THE WAY TO FREEDOM A LITTLE EASIER.



Original poem can be found at:

http://www.workplacespirituality.info/ForEveryWoman.html

**That friendships can be as comfy as old sweatshirts, but love affairs shouldn’t be.

**Why we need our own a) bank account b) credit card c) bathroom d) closet e) all of the above

**How to pack the trunk of the car correctly

**Dawdling

**The tone of your girlfriend’s telephone voice when she means: He’s in the room, so I can’t talk about that right now.

**The difference between pants, regular pants, nice pants, good pants, and dressy pants.

**Why it makes perfect sense to wear toe-crushing, arch-defying, exquisitely beautiful pumps.

**What it is exactly about mice…

**That the noise in the cellar in the middle of the night is not the house settling. It is an ax murderer or, at the very least, a large, scary robber.

**Being addicted to women’s magazines.

**That it’s all very well to have a good husband, but if you don’t have a good a) hair colorist b) aerobics instructor c) car mechanic d) baby-sitter e) all of the above; you might as well be dead.

**That he’s not allowed to leave underwear all over the bedroom, but you are because yours is prettier 🙂

**Why you want him to hold the door for you.

**Why you don’t want him to hold the door for you.

**The subtle gradations of friendship: You’d tell that story to her but not to her.

**Why a woman cannot have too many pairs of black slacks.

**How to look as if you’re listening attentively while you’re actually planning your grocery list in your head.

**That listening–really listening–to a woman is the sexiest thing a man can do.

**Why it’s essential to pack your makeup case in your carry-on bag, not in your luggage.

**The importance of excellent diplomatic relations–with the plumber, the dry cleaner, the vet, the mail carrier, the UPS driver, and every other life-support system.

**How to put on lipstick with a mouth full of Novocain.

**The subtle gradations of flirting: A friendly smile across the table at lunch means one thing, but if you lean toward him when you smile at him, that’s something else entirely.

**That the opportunity to wear your new outfit is a reason to go on living.

**The telltale signs of cheapness in a man: saving rubber bands, giving you a gift without gift wrap, bringing bad wine to a dinner party, insisting that the generic brand of everything is just as good, a subtle hesitation when the waiter brings the check, arriving so late at the movies that you’ve already bought the tickets.

**That finding a pair of perfectly fitting jeans approaches having a religious experience.

**That personality is revealed by one’s choice of underwear.

**The difference between a girl and a woman.

**That sometimes the most effective way to cope with the problems of daily life is to take a nap.

**How to drive a man crazy.

**Why a vacuum cleaner is not a good birthday present for a woman. Same goes for a humidifier, a lawn mower, or an electric toothbrush. A powerdrill, on the other hand, might be a breakthrough.

**If he says he doesn’t deserve you, he probably doesn’t. And if he says you’re too good for him, you probably are.

**That there’s something basically wrong when the majority of politicians are male in a country where the majority of people are female.

**That when he says he’ll call you soon, he won’t. But when he says he’ll call you tomorrow at seven-thirty, he will.

**That making a list of the things you have to do is almost as good as doing them.

**Why erotica for women is different from erotica for men.

**That men get too much credit for being monogamous, and women get too little.

**Changing your mind fifteen times in an hour.

**That when you’re out of sorts or depressed, the best quick remedy is to call a friend. (Men would sooner call the dentist.)

**That having many, many, many pairs of shoes does not make you a foot fetishist.

**Buying that perfect t-shirt in five different colors.

**That no matter how gender-neutral you become, you’ll never agree to stop painting your toenails.

**Why you need your own special shampoo even though the hotel provides loads of little bottles of the stuff.

**The unbeatable combination of girlfriends and a kitchen table.

**That men don’t know how to talk about problems until we teach them.

**How endearing it is when a man remembers your favorite color, flower, author, rock band, sandwich, and flavor of ice cream.

**That when you’re out on a date it’s a turn-on to pick up the check. (Hey, sport, that’s one reason men like to do it.)

**That spending $50 on a sweater marked down from $150 means you have an extra $100 in your checking account.

**That men do not speak the same language women speak, even when it sounds like standard English.

**How to handle rejection. Right.

**Why Girls’ Night Out is not on the list of optionals.

**That receiving a bouquet of carnations is worse than receiving no bouquet at all.

**How to apply makeup in the rearview mirror.

**How to function brilliantly in an emergency.

**You need hugs and kisses every day. You may not get them, but you need them.

**That it’s just about the most annoying thing in the world when a man you meet at a party asks, right off the bat, what your husband or boyfriend does–instead of asking what you do.

**That it takes you about one millisecond to detect a woman who doesn’t like other women.

**That running out of coffee, panty hose, mascara, and gas on the same morning is enough to send you back to bed for the rest of the day.

**Why pockets will never replace handbags. (Try carrying Tampax in your pocket.)

**It’s possible to have it all, but not all at once.

 

Source: 511 Things Only Women Understand by Lorraine Bodger