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Catherine of Siena

(1347-1380)

Italian Saint, mystic, activist

Like many female saints, Catherine of Siena had visions of the heavenly kingdom, but she was also influential in earthly ones. A consecrated virgin since the age of seven and a Dominican lay-affiliate at sixteen, Catherine began to see images of Christ, Heaven, Hell, and Purgatory in her late teens. Many medieval women were inspired by visions to withdraw from the world, but not Catherine. Her visions first told her to aid the sick and poor, and then to enter the political arena. Catherine wrote many letters to powerful individuals, begging for peace between the divided territories of Italy and for the return of the papacy to Rome from its location in Avignon. She had a long correspondence with Pope Gregory XI regarding the ladder, and was sent as the Florentine ambassador to make peace with the Papal States. Though the process failed, Catherine so impressed the Pope tht he agreed to return to Rome, ending the infamously corrupt Avignon Papacy. In addition to being canonized, Catherine became a patron saint of Europe and the first woman to be honored as a Doctor of the Church.

Florence Chadwick

(1919-1995)

Long-distance swimmer

Florence Chadwick swam the English Channel four times, making history each time. On August 8, 1950, she bested the record set by Gertrude Ederle (the first woman to swim across the channel), crossing from France to England in 13 hours, 20 minutes and managing an amazing sixty strokes per minute in the first part of the swim. “I lost five pounds during the crossing,” she told reporters, adding that it was “a good way to lose weight fast.” In 1951, Chadwick swam the more difficult England to France crossing in 16 hours, 22 minutes, becoming the first woman to complete the passage both ways. She would swim the English Channel the hard way two more times, setting records both times, and also successfully swim the Catalina Channel, the Dardanelles, the Bosporus, and the Straits of Gibraltar.

Versatile in the use of her talent, Chadwick was featured in the movie Bathing Beauty, taught and coached swimming, and encouraged young women to become athletes. When she retired from professional sports, she became a stockbroker and a business executive.

May Craig

(1889-1975)

Journalist

War correspondent, founding panelist on television’s Meet the Press, and iconic hat-wearer, May Craig spent nearly four decades as one of the most prominent personalities in the Washington, DC, press corps. Craig began reporting on the nation’s capital in the 1930s, and by the end of her career she had covered five presidential administrations. The little woman with the ostentatious hats was known for asking tough questions. Adlai Stevenson prepared for an appearance on Meet the Press with a written plea to Craig: “Please be merciful.” Craig advocated famously for a larger female presence within the male-dominated world of news, securing the installation of a women’s restroom in the congressional press gallery and becoming the first female correspondent allowed aboard a naval ship at sea. President Kennedy once quipped that the establishment of the Commission on the Status of Women was simply an effort to placate her. In 1962 Eleanor Roosevelt paid tribute to Craig in her “My Day” column: “No other lady of the press has waged a longer or more persistent battle for the rights of women than has May Craig.”

Ruth Elder

(1902-1977)

Aviator, Actress

When Charles Lindbergh became the first person to fly across the Atlantic Ocean in 1927, Ruth Elder determined that she would be the first woman. Assailed by critics who felt the “gentler sex” was not fit to pilot a plane- one German newspaper called her plan “over-whelming presumptuousness” and “crazy sensationalism”- Elder and copilot George Haldeman nonetheless took off from Long Island on October 13, 1927, in the American Girl. They survived some 2,600 miles of stormy weather before the plane’s oil pressure failed and they were forced to land in the ocean 300 miles off the Portuguese coast. During their rescue, the American Girl went up in flames, inspiring a popular song of the times, “Flaming Ruth.” Although she did not reach her goal, Elder’s feat was celebrated; a ticker-tape parade awaited her in New York. The publicity also garnered her the lead in the 1928 silent movie Moran of the Marines. Elder continued to fly, participating in air races and joining a group of licensed female flyers, the Ninety-Nines, who proved that women in aviation were here to stay.

Myrlie Evers-Williams

(b. 1933)

Civil Rights Activist

“You can kill a man but you can’t kill an idea,” said Myrlie Evers-Williams, a tireless advocate for civil rights both before and after her first husband, Medgar Evers, was assassinated in 1963. Medgar had been Mississippi field secretary for the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP), and Myrlie was his secretary. Together they worked for an end to segregation in the southern United States. After Medgar’s murder, two trials against his killer, Byron de la Beckwith, ended in hung juries, but Myrlie’s persistence persuaded Mississippi state attorneys to reopen the case nearly thirty years later; Beckwith was finally convicted in 1994. Evers-Williams also forged her own identity, notably as the first African American woman to serve on the Los Angeles Board of Public Works. From 1995 to 1998 she served as the NAACP’s board chair-person- the first woman to hold that position. “I…battled mightily to preserve Medgar’s memory,” she wrote in a 1999 memoir, “and, at the same time, to be seen as myself, as Myrlie- as a woman and not simply as ‘the widow of.'”

Trixie Friganza

(1870-1955)

Actress, Suffragist

As a young girl, Cincinnati-native Delia O’ Callaghan, known to her friends as Trixie, worked as a cashier to help support her family. Convinced she could be a breadwinner in a more compelling career, she successfully auditioned for a chorus role in The Pearl of Pekin in 1889, adopting her mother’s maiden name, Friganza. An enthusiastic and gifted thespian, she progressed from the chorus to feature roles and was best loved for her musical comedies and vaudeville acts. Friganza was famous for her crowd-pleasing comic styling, which often centered on her portly, “perfect forty-six” figure and turbulent love stories. Although she poked fun at herself onstage, she was considered by her contemporaries to be a self-assured and confident woman. She used her celebrity to champion social issues, such as women’s suffrage and access to art for the economically depressed. Shown in this 1908 photograph, when she spoke at a suffrage rally in New York City, Friganza proclaimed, “I do not believe any man- at least no man I know- is better fitted to form a political opinion than I am.”

Source: Women Who Dare, from the Library of Congress

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**That friendships can be as comfy as old sweatshirts, but love affairs shouldn’t be.

**Why we need our own a) bank account b) credit card c) bathroom d) closet e) all of the above

**How to pack the trunk of the car correctly

**Dawdling

**The tone of your girlfriend’s telephone voice when she means: He’s in the room, so I can’t talk about that right now.

**The difference between pants, regular pants, nice pants, good pants, and dressy pants.

**Why it makes perfect sense to wear toe-crushing, arch-defying, exquisitely beautiful pumps.

**What it is exactly about mice…

**That the noise in the cellar in the middle of the night is not the house settling. It is an ax murderer or, at the very least, a large, scary robber.

**Being addicted to women’s magazines.

**That it’s all very well to have a good husband, but if you don’t have a good a) hair colorist b) aerobics instructor c) car mechanic d) baby-sitter e) all of the above; you might as well be dead.

**That he’s not allowed to leave underwear all over the bedroom, but you are because yours is prettier 🙂

**Why you want him to hold the door for you.

**Why you don’t want him to hold the door for you.

**The subtle gradations of friendship: You’d tell that story to her but not to her.

**Why a woman cannot have too many pairs of black slacks.

**How to look as if you’re listening attentively while you’re actually planning your grocery list in your head.

**That listening–really listening–to a woman is the sexiest thing a man can do.

**Why it’s essential to pack your makeup case in your carry-on bag, not in your luggage.

**The importance of excellent diplomatic relations–with the plumber, the dry cleaner, the vet, the mail carrier, the UPS driver, and every other life-support system.

**How to put on lipstick with a mouth full of Novocain.

**The subtle gradations of flirting: A friendly smile across the table at lunch means one thing, but if you lean toward him when you smile at him, that’s something else entirely.

**That the opportunity to wear your new outfit is a reason to go on living.

**The telltale signs of cheapness in a man: saving rubber bands, giving you a gift without gift wrap, bringing bad wine to a dinner party, insisting that the generic brand of everything is just as good, a subtle hesitation when the waiter brings the check, arriving so late at the movies that you’ve already bought the tickets.

**That finding a pair of perfectly fitting jeans approaches having a religious experience.

**That personality is revealed by one’s choice of underwear.

**The difference between a girl and a woman.

**That sometimes the most effective way to cope with the problems of daily life is to take a nap.

**How to drive a man crazy.

**Why a vacuum cleaner is not a good birthday present for a woman. Same goes for a humidifier, a lawn mower, or an electric toothbrush. A powerdrill, on the other hand, might be a breakthrough.

**If he says he doesn’t deserve you, he probably doesn’t. And if he says you’re too good for him, you probably are.

**That there’s something basically wrong when the majority of politicians are male in a country where the majority of people are female.

**That when he says he’ll call you soon, he won’t. But when he says he’ll call you tomorrow at seven-thirty, he will.

**That making a list of the things you have to do is almost as good as doing them.

**Why erotica for women is different from erotica for men.

**That men get too much credit for being monogamous, and women get too little.

**Changing your mind fifteen times in an hour.

**That when you’re out of sorts or depressed, the best quick remedy is to call a friend. (Men would sooner call the dentist.)

**That having many, many, many pairs of shoes does not make you a foot fetishist.

**Buying that perfect t-shirt in five different colors.

**That no matter how gender-neutral you become, you’ll never agree to stop painting your toenails.

**Why you need your own special shampoo even though the hotel provides loads of little bottles of the stuff.

**The unbeatable combination of girlfriends and a kitchen table.

**That men don’t know how to talk about problems until we teach them.

**How endearing it is when a man remembers your favorite color, flower, author, rock band, sandwich, and flavor of ice cream.

**That when you’re out on a date it’s a turn-on to pick up the check. (Hey, sport, that’s one reason men like to do it.)

**That spending $50 on a sweater marked down from $150 means you have an extra $100 in your checking account.

**That men do not speak the same language women speak, even when it sounds like standard English.

**How to handle rejection. Right.

**Why Girls’ Night Out is not on the list of optionals.

**That receiving a bouquet of carnations is worse than receiving no bouquet at all.

**How to apply makeup in the rearview mirror.

**How to function brilliantly in an emergency.

**You need hugs and kisses every day. You may not get them, but you need them.

**That it’s just about the most annoying thing in the world when a man you meet at a party asks, right off the bat, what your husband or boyfriend does–instead of asking what you do.

**That it takes you about one millisecond to detect a woman who doesn’t like other women.

**That running out of coffee, panty hose, mascara, and gas on the same morning is enough to send you back to bed for the rest of the day.

**Why pockets will never replace handbags. (Try carrying Tampax in your pocket.)

**It’s possible to have it all, but not all at once.

 

Source: 511 Things Only Women Understand by Lorraine Bodger

Here we have the words of wisdom from several psychologists, counselors, researchers, and matchmakers “to spill their secrets to making that complicated-but-wonderful guy-girl thing actually work.” All of these dead-on tips are split up into “five major love stages.” Some may stray a bit from your own moral compass (mine too), but overall I think we’ve got a great batch of girl talk for all the ladies to enjoy…

Stage One: Falling in Lust…

Don’t sleep with a guy on the first date if you want the best shot at some kind of future with him. Yes, plenty of relationships do start that way, but you risk being put into the onetime-fling category.

Never pretend to be into a guy’s hobbies. Your true colors will come out.

When a guy tells you he isn’t looking for a commitment, repeat it to a friend or write it down. Do what you have to do. That forces you to accept that he means it…and he does. (Yes, from time to time we do need this kind of reality check, especially if your heart is being really stubborn and doesn’t want to listen! Happens to the best of us.)

Enjoy the moment when you’re on dates. That means no discussing the future with him or worrying Is he The One? by date four. For the first month or so, your only job is to have fun. (Make that the first 2 or 3 months!)

Focus on your own pleasure in bed. If you’re too busy showing off your skills, you’ll forget to just enjoy yourself (and rob him of the pleasure of driving you wild).

Listen to what his friends and family say about him. Offhand comments (“He was never a one-woman guy before meeting you!”) are some of your best tip-offs to the real him. So pay attention!

Sit or stand side by side with your man while doing things together whenever possible. Men typically feel more relaxed and intimately connected in this position than when you’re directly facing each other.

Spend equal–if not more–time with your friends in the first few months of dating. Guys often rush into a relationship, then suddenly cry, “This is moving too fast!” You have to apply the brakes. (Very true! And it takes a while to get used to this part ladies. Just takes practice.)

Keep your options open for at least three months before deciding to be exclusive. You need a minimum of 90 days to even begin to know what someone is really like.

Stage Two: Going to the Next Level…

He’s not your boyfriend until he publicly calls you his girlfriend or agrees to be exclusive. End of story. (Ladies please don’t try to bend the truth and scew reality. This is simple. It might be a hard pill to swallow, but this is definitely a mistake that does not look classy on you. Now, if you and your friends, agree you’ve been waiting forever for just an inch…then it might be time to re-evaluate why you’re still with this guy.)

When you have a problem with his lifestyle, speak up before you get really angry. If you don’t tell him that his partying bugs you, you’ll eventually explode on him- not a smart communication technique. (This takes a lot of patience. If you find yourself getting super angry in the moment, it’s best to step away from the situation and think about it or talk it over with a friend. Remember to pick your battles. Because in the end, is this REALLY something you need to start an argument over?… if it is- speak up girl!)

Let him be the first to say the L word. Men generally need more time to process emotions and voice them. Hearing it could make him feel cornered. (Normally I would probably say ‘ugh bullshit, if you want to say it first, go for it!’…but this fact can be backed up by psychological and sociological fact- therefore it might be best to let him go first )

If you need a Define This Relationship Talk, initiate it while walking with you guy. Low-key activity lowers his stress hormone levels, which rise when he’s forced to chat about his emotions. (the downside to gender socialization. Sad day.)

Hang out with happy couples he knows and thinks are cool. When he sees commitment as a fun thing, he’ll become more comfortable with it. (Only necessary if your guy hasn’t been in a committed relationship before.)

 If you think you want to marry a guy, wait to move in until you’re engaged. Otherwise, he’ll feel less incentive to take the next step. (Although, if he needs more incentive than just wanting to be with you…then what the heck? hmmm)

Shacking up while you’re engaged is a smart move. Cohabiting presents a host of challenges that are best handled prior to marriage.

Deliver an ultimatum to get a commitment only if you’re prepared to walk away. Be firm about expectations, and give him a deadline. (emphasis on the prepare to walk away part!…ultimatums can be dangerous.)

You can’t force a guy to cut ties with his past…but explain why his hanging out with an ex or someone you don’t like, hurts you. If he really cares, he’ll respect your wishes or tell you why he needs continued contact. (Very, very, very true. You cannot change the people that were in his past. No matter how much you wish they weren’t involved.)

Cut your guy some slack if he promises you’ll get engaged once he reaches a goal, like finishing grad school. But give him only nine months after that to make good on his word.

Stage Three: Hitting the First Rough Patch

Develop binocular vision: the ability to see his perspective plus your own. Try to appreciate his point of view and he’ll be more likely to appreciate yours. (This is definitely the best but sometimes the hard thing to do. But try to do this as much as possible! It will definitely work out some way.)

Couch a complaint between compliments: “You’re a great schmoozer, but I’d like a call if you’re going to miss dinner because of client drinks. I love our evening time together, and I want to know when it will start.” (Most often I say just come right out and say it. Cut the bullshit. lol but sometimes I’m nice.)

Get him to act by using humor.

Know this: over time, a guy’s attitudes, opinions, beliefs, politics, and views toward money could be fluid. What probably won’t change: his values, stance on monogamy, and religious beliefs.

Speak up about specifics- a birthday present you’d like, a restaurant you want to go to. Men don’t pick up on subtle clues.

If you find out something bad about his past, like he cheated on an ex, ask why he did it and what he learned. If he is contrite and has vowed to change, chances are, he won’t do it again.

When he seems overwhelmed during an argument, take a 20 minute break. Men’s bodies easily flood with stress hormones, triggering an instinct to flee.

Watch your mouth in moments of anger. Cruel or contemptuous comments are often forgiven but not forgotten.

Don’t criticize his attempts to say sorry. Men apologize through activity, so although you may not hear the word, you’ll see it when he takes you to dinner or gives you a massage after a fight.

Stage Four: Cruising Into the Comfort Zone

One habit all happy couples share: doing fun things together. Competitive games (pool, Trivial Pursuit) have a strong effect because they raise adrenaline, which helps you bond.

Don’t let him see you peeing, plucking your eyebrows, or doing an at-home bikini wax. You can be “real” in ways that don’t chip away at romance.

Keep some secrets to preserve mystery. Examples: your “number,” what happened that girls’ weekend in Cabo, etc.

Jump on him instead of next to him on the couch. Being sexy and playful takes effort, but it’s the glue that keeps couples together.

Don’t forget to kiss. Doing it for 10 seconds for no particular reason makes you more aroused during sex, even hours later.

…And hug too. Guys have less oxytocin, the brain’s bonding chemical, than women do, but it can be boosted with frequent touching.

If your body has changed since you met, good God, don’t point it out! Men rarely notice details like cellulite and saggage.

Balance out each negative interaction with five positive actions. Things like a peck on the cheek, make-up sex, or saying I love you will help repair and restore your relationship after a fight.

Don’t succumb to sex when you’re not feeling it. Most women need a few minutes to relax before they’re mentally ready to become intimate. Chill, then go at it.

Get past a sex slump by isolating yourselves (spending a night at a hotel or the weekend in your bed) with no distractions and only one agenda: sex.

Don’t pull a Heidi Montag and dump everyone to be with your guy 24/7. Space is healthy, and no one person can be responsible for your happiness. (Agreed 100%)

Be unpredictable. Guys want variety, but they don’t require it from other girls. While reading the paper say “You know, I’ve always wanted you to do me on the stairs,” then nonchalantly go back to the headlines.

Always thank him for little stuff (e.g., filling up your tank, being sweet to your third-wheel girlfriend). Appreciation keeps the good deeds coming.

Stage Five: Looking at the Future Together

Both of you at some point will question your ability to be faithful forever. Keep it to yourself, and don’t take it personally if he’s having the same doubts.

If you wonder whether you’re settling, ask yourself, Am I spending so much time saving this relationship that I’ve neglected the goals I had before we met? If I walked away right now, could I live with losing him? If you answer no, stick with it and reevaluate in six months.

Love doesn’t conquer all. Some incompatibilities just won’t go away, no matter how much you care.

Don’t compare your relationship to other people’s. Every couple- even the perfect-looking ones- has problems.

Innocent jealousy keeps things spicy. Occasionally laugh about how you happily rebuffed a cheesy guy’s advances.

Get real about sex: 5 to 15 percent of intercourse in healthy relationships is either dissatisfying (one of you doesn’t climax or foreplay is rushed or skipped) or dysfunctional. Don’t sweat it until you clock more duds than that.

If you do slip up and cheat, think very hard before you confess. Sometimes coming clean does more harm than good. (Personally, I think you should always confess. You should always tell the truth. If you knew what you were doing would hurt someone else, why did you do it? I think you give up your right to keep a serious secret like that, when you decided to do it from the beginning. Yes, confessing will hurt both of you, that’s inevitable, but that’s the truth and that’s life.)

Life is long. If the timing just isn’t right now, take a break. It doesn’t mean you won’t be together at some point.

Life is also short. Make a point to laugh your asses off regularly. The rest will take care of itself.

Source: The 50 Best Relationship Tips Ever by Holly Eagleson, Cosmopolitan Magazine

1. Make out with a random guy who’s completely not your type just because he’s pretty hot.

2. Take a trip alone. (Or go with a friend but spend some time separately.) Exploring exotic terrain on your own gives you a real in-the-moment high.

3. Pack in those plans guys often tend to roll their eyes about: art galleries, plays, poetry readings, etc.

4. Use the money that would’ve gone toward a BF’s birthday present for a deep-tissue massage.

5. Get at least three guys to ask for your number in the same day.

6. Throw a casual weekly cocktail party, each time inviting a different mix of friends, coworkers, and new acquaintances.

Source: Molly Triffin

 

Advice and tips from the fabulous Candace Bushnell. As one of my role models, Bushnell exerts a very macro-level philosophy to life and it’s many hurdles. She has formulated so much wisdom in her life so far, and has pioneered many amazing ideas with her class and creativity. Her words always inspire me and continue to paralell the ideas I have for myself.

Live Within Your Means

“You’re on the edge of your seat financially in your 20’s, but you don’t want to end up owing $80,000 when you’re 30 years old. It’s better to go without.”

Make Friends With Rejection

“In my 20’s, I wrote stories and sent them out. Few got printed. You have to be willing to put yourself out there and then move on, trying every angle.”

Get Pitch-Perfect

“Giving a 30-second big idea to someone is important, so get right to the point: ‘I think I have a great idea for the company. It’s about this. Is that something that interests you?'”

Your Screwups Lead to Success

“Give yourself permission to make mistakes. By developing problem-solving skills, you are laying the groundwork to be happy in your 30s and 40s.”

Embrace the Uncertainty

“Your job in your 20s is to explore and find out about the world- not to worry that you don’t know enough yet. No one knows what’s coming next…enjoy that.”

Essentials Learned About Men

Soul-quaking sex does not equal soul-mate status

“Great sex with someone may or may not really mean something. But it’s a hell of a lot better than bad sex! What it comes down to is that sex is just another form of communication.”

Skip Mr. Big

“That means a guy who will rescue you or who possesses all the qualities you want but don’t yet have. Men cannot give you that. You should be developing those qualities yourself.”

Love isn’t guaranteed

“Most women think that love is a right, that it’s ordained. Guess what? No one has to be in love with you. It’s not a given. The only person who needs to love you is you.”

You will know he’s The One

“My grandmother said that, and I never believed it. But it’s true. You won’t be calling your friends saying, ‘I don’t know if he’s interested.’ There won’t be drama. He’ll be as into it as you are.”

It’s good to emulate them

“I’ve asked a lot of men about their top priority, and for most, it’s career and achievement. Your life is about the development of your story, what adventures happen to you. That’s the romance of life.”

 

Do we want the vanilla iced latte or vanilla bean frappuccino? The new Coach purse or next month’s rent? Heels or flats? Highlights or lowlights? America’s Next Top Model or Project Runway? Single or get married?  Let’s look beyond the shoes, the purses, the jewelry, and the clothes. Look beyond the surface.

The reasons women started a revolution for themselves many decades ago are still true today. However, the extraordinary change and growth we have achieved in a single generation is astounding. In a 2009 study the Rockafeller Foundation did, in collaboration with TIME magazine on the battle of the sexes from the 1970’s to the present, Nancy Gibbs describes not only how far women have come, but also how our wants and needs have changed over the years.

In 1848, when Elizabeth Stanton first spoke up about her discontent with the American government and the limitations being placed on women at that time, including their freedom, thus began the movement where women would fight to no longer look to a man for approval. Women would take matters into their own hands, instead of asking for power, they took it themselves. The movement for social, political, and economic equality for both men and women has seen many changes since then, so where are we now?

Gibbs reported that “it is expected by the end of 2009, for the first time in history the majority of workers in the United States will be women. The growth prospects, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, are in typically female jobs like nursing, retail and customer service. [However], more and more women are the primary breadwinner in their household (almost 40%) or are providing essential income for the family’s bottom line. Their buying power has never been greater- and their choices have seldom been harder.”

The question that is posed and consistently remains the theme of this article is: is the battle of the sexes really over? Other questions raised about this topic include:

How do men now view female power?

How much resentment or confusion or gratitude is there for the forces that have rearranged family life, rewired the economy and reinvented gender roles?

And, what, if anything, does everyone agree needs to happen to make all this work?

Some of us might know the answer, some of us could see part of the answer in reading this article, and yet the rest of us may never find the answer. But the point is that we agree these aren’t just issues we can sweep under the rug. We need to acknowledge that these issues are real and affect men and women each day.

Remember when you were little and you got all dressed up to go over to grandma’s house for the christmas family reunion? Everyone sat around eating cookies and telling stories about how things used to be “back in the day.” Grandma would say things like “take your education seriously, when I was your age I never had the opportunity to go to college” or “we were never allowed to wear those outfits anywhere, at school our uniform skirts were always measured to our knees, and elsewhere we always wore dresses that covered our arms and it was unheard of to show cleavage. Even at church, we wore dresses, stockings, gloves, and always had to have our heads covered with a Sunday hat or a small cloth that looked like a doilie.” For years and years we heard how our grandmothers, our aunts, our mothers, never had the same opportunities that you and I have today. If you’re like me, you always just responded with “yeah, yeah we know, you had to walk 10 miles to school each day, up hill both ways.”

But what was really going on at that time? What changes were women making, if any? Gibbs brings back the history for us in saying,

“At a time when American society was racing through change like a reckless teenager, feminism had sputtered and stalled. Women’s average wages had actually fallen relative to men’s; there were fewer women in the top ranks of civil service (under 2%) than there were four years before. No woman had served in the Cabinet since the Eisenhower Administration; there were no female FBI agents or network-news anchors or Supreme Court Justices. The nation’s campuses were busy hosting a social revolt, yet Harvard’s tenured faculty of 421 included only six women. Headhunters lamented that it was easier to put a man on the moon than a woman in a corner office.”

A lot of people have said, around this same time is when feminism started to die. That, it was no longer “cool” to be a feminist in our American society. The rallies and riots in the streets and the scenes of women on Capitol Hill burning bras were a thing of the past. (Ah! I so wish I could have been a part of that!) Many said, and still say that the Women’s Movement was a joke, that it was just a bunch of angry women who were constantly PMSing for a couple years and wanted everyone to suffer for it. Men and women, including feminists, have said that there is no movement. That a movement means there is progress, that the cause is “going somewhere,” but the women’s movement won’t accomplish anything, it is not and will not go anywhere.

“[Well] that was a cranky exaggeration; many changes were felt more than seen, a shift in hopes and expectations that cracked the foundations of patriarchy. ‘In terms of real power- economic and political- we are still just beginning,’ Gloria Steinem admitted. ‘But the consciousness, the awareness- that will never be the same.'”

 If we’re being honest here, I agree that the awareness of feminism will never be the same as it was in the 1970’s. However, one stereotype we gladly fulfill, is that we will never go silent. Feminism still lives on, and we’re certainly not about to shut up about it! To all those that say feminism died a long time ago, and to those who constantly reep snobish remarks at women who publicly voice their thoughts of feminism- you may silence few individuals, but you will never silence the movement. Furthermore, as history has shown, we have the cold hard facts to shatter the thoughts and words of all those who said WOMEN CAN’T. The truth never lies my friends.

Today 57% of college students are women. In 1972, 43% were.

In 1972, there were 7  female TV-news correspondents at ABC, CBS, and NBC; out of 153. As of 2009, there 95 out of 252.

21—The median age at which a woman got married for the first time in 1972.

26— The median age at which a woman married for the first time today.

39% of all births are to unmarried mothers. 12% were in 1972.

There were 18,000 women who held a membership with the National Organization for Women, in 1972. As of 2009, the memberships have jumped to 500,000.

There are now 3.3 million married couples in which the wife is the sole earner. That’s 2.4 million more than in 1970.

                                1972: 13%                              2008: 23%

             Percentage of children living with a single mother.

 Exactly 89% of women and 89% of men both agree they are comfortable with the woman in the household earning more money than the man.

40% of women say they are the primary breadwinner in their household

More men (60%) than women (50%) are convinced that there are no longer any barriers to women’s advancement in the workplace.

Forty years ago, 1/3 of all workers were women; now nearly half are. 76% of adults view this as positive for society. AND 80% view this as positive for the economy.

29% of men agree that female bosses are harder to work for than male bosses. 46% of women disagreed.

71% of men are more comfortable than their fathers with women working outside the home.

70% say women are less financially dependent on their spouses than their mothers were.

Men have lost the battle of the sexes. 58% of women disagree and 62% of men disagree.

And as a personal side note: To my fellow sisters, feminazis, and all those in between…don’t ever let someone else take power over you to the point where you feel you cannot speak your mind. Everyone has a voice. Including the really pesky misogynists…if they have a valid argument, bring it on. If they just want to piss you off…I really don’t give a f*** is sometimes the most liberating response. Finally, to all those “closet-feminists” who are sometimes afraid to speak up…this is for you. I hope you join the rest of us soon!

Rock on.